From auto to manual…


And then there are times when you start to breathe again, live again and then a certain thing can make you suffocate all of a sudden… and even though there is light at the end of the tunnel, you may again feel like you are surrounded by darkness… And it can be real OR an illusion created by your fears… But the truth is that you have survived the darkness before and you can do it now too… and you will… and perhaps this darkness is what you need to fuel your inner spark instead of waiting for the sun to shine…

Like a camera… you have to stop depending on auto, and switch to manual, change all the settings and take a brighter picture even when the sun is setting!!

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Anger Management


Anger:  some people pour it on others, some consume it within… while some use it to achieve their dreams…  whether your anger turns an acid (for others and yourself) or turns into fuel, it’s a choice that only you can make!!!

As for me… I am happy to use it as fuel!!!

Life is beautiful – A perfect story!


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Everything has its place in time … Every character, pain, joy, smile, tears, difficulty, ease, haters, lovers, supporters, trouble makers… All are meant to be there to create the perfect story … And it does not necessarily mean that it should have a happy ending or full of love, even life has its genres… Action, thriller, comedy, family, love, tragic, sad … So just because someone’s life is focused on love story or comedy, doesn’t mean your’s has to be the same too … Perhaps your’s is action, or documentary, or tragic … In the end… They are all perfect stories, for life… you just have to change your view and stop comparing… Esp. if you wouldn’t compare the movies that you see!! After all, not every actor can play action, nor every actor can play comedy or love 😉 … Be proud of yourself, and your life… Its one superhit movie… and someone out there, is already loving your life and taking notes from it! 🙂

— Posted on the go from WordPress for Android

Realizing the light within…


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Problem with telling someone what hurts you is that… the moment you open up to them, you expect them to protect you from being hurt, for them to defend you from any harm… Still, despite knowing your life & its games, you hold your breath and once again, like always, take a chance, hope that this time will be different… That this person will actually be a friend who will help you heal as well as protect you from any harm, at least try to….  But once again, life proves you wrong… Proves that some people are meant to be healers but not healed by someone… That they are suppose to keep the secrests and be the help but when it comes to them, they have to be their own help, shoulder, recharger …  That like sun, they need to bring the light from within… And that light only comes from one source… From The ONE… HE who helped you then, will help you now … Dream, hope, take chances… Fall but rise & know that it is all part of life … & yet, at the end of the day, know that perhaps HE doesnt want you to share with anyone else but HiM, and that HE loves you so much thats why HE lets you be the sun who sheds light, even to those who take it for granted, who gives energy and warmth…  & if no.one realizes, then let it be… Because HE values you, lights up you heart even when sometimes you ignore it… And HE loves you, for if HE didn’t, you would’ve been left amongst the ones who went astray… So trust HIM, share with HIM, love HIM, love & care for people for HIS sake … Do what you do for HIS sake… and turn to HIM, return to HIM… Just care about what HE thinks 🙂 expect …but only from HIM …

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Child Abuse is Not Limited


I met a family … Loving & Caring & United & Understanding, or so it seemed … Until I came across a scene that made me want to write this post …

We have often heard of child abuse… mostly whenever someone brings up the topic, we feel it is probably about children being sexually abused, harassed, bullied, or perhaps child labor, or being verbally abused and offended… Even if you search online, it is more likely to be limited as:

Child abuse is the physical, sexual or emotional mistreatment or neglect of a child or children – Wikipedia

Not often, or rather in very rare cases do we ever think that perhaps there is another form of child abuse too?  Or at least, I feel there is another form too … For me, using abusive words in conversation, calling names, etc can be a form of child abuse too… How?  Well its simple … The way I understand it, any thing that can cause a child to suffer emotionally or psychologically in negative way is a form of child abuse… And so are abusive words… Sometimes parents, when talking to their children, even though they are talking about other people, use “bad” names for those people in front of their child… Sometimes, children, out of respect, don’t use the same words when talking about similar kind of people, in front of their parents… but somehow, it causes them to disrespect… Deep down, subconsciously the child stops respecting his/her parents, as he/she grows up… And later, as an adult… sometimes, only because of him/her having his conscious alive, he still respects the parent but not from heart, only for the sake of it… Yet… many kids, loose respect for everyone as they grow up, and start using those words habitually … Yet, parents scold them… Why?  Because he/she is a kid?  Adolescent perhaps?  But when it didn’t stop you from avoiding the use of that language in their childhood, why do you stop them now?

Sometimes you teach them that it is okay to use abusive words as an adult but not as a child, making them seek adulthood just so that they can use the same words, but in reality they are using it already… sometimes, when you hurt them, they use the same words for you, perhaps not on your face, but surely behind your back… would you like to be called by names from your own child?  I don’t think so… But yes, it is true… There are high chances for the child to use them behind your back, if not on face, only because you used them behind someone else’s back while you had a smile on your face in front of them… You taught them to be disrespectful.  You filled their brain with crap… You polluted it… I believe there is enough pollution already the moment you step outside the home, movies, music, news, schools, society… Last thing you’d want is to be a source of pollution yourself… Stop abusing your own child’s brain… Stop filling it with crap… Stop being hypocritical…

I’m not a parent… And it’s probably a few years from now that I will be one InshA’llah… but still… I want to thank all parents for doing what they do… Thank you for showing me the negative side of parenting too, because the more i learn how even parents make mistakes and how negatively it effects the child, even though they claim otherwise, I have learned what kind of parent i don’t want to be… I don’t want to become the parent who is hypocritical by setting different rules for me and my child, especially when there is obviously no justified reason for it… I don’t want to be the parent who curses other people in front her of child just so that her child learns to curse others, and me… I’d rather spend my time being silent in front of my child instead of schooling them about all the bad words, the verbal hatred, and all that I hate hearing myself…

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