Chapter 3 – In pursuit of Happiness?

So basically I have no idea why I kept the title of this post as “In pursuit of happiness”  basically this post is my version for finding happiness… but nevertheless, I just was reminded of the movie and the name felt like a good title?  Anyhoo… So… let’s see… I could go on with past events since my last post or simply get to the point and write whatever comes in my mind, which does sound a better way to blog… as usual..

So … how do we define happiness?  What is happiness?  Where can you find it?  How do you find it?  So many questions… and not enough answers even though there is a version of happiness dedicated to every person … So basically if I was to tell how many definitions there are of happiness, I’d say that it is equal to the number of people on this earth, old and young alike… Yet, there is only one rational definition, and that is whatever makes you feel good is a source of happiness, so basically the definition is one but it gets that many number of versions because of the different source of happiness for everyone…

Some find happiness and making others happy, some in getting gifts, other getting clothes, some seeing their dad/son after a long time when they come back from work or worktrip or something, a mother finds it in the smile of her child, children find it in probably new toys, icecreams, sweets and candies… and so on… What I have noticed though is that… happiness is same yet different… simple yet complicated… sometimes, it is easy to be happy, and sometimes you have to push yourself and fight with yourself to be happy… fight with circumstances and stand against odd in order to be happy…

Lately it seems as though I’m in the position where I am happy and yet not content… and sometimes, content but not happy… followed by none but trying to be… despite the fact that everything is same as it has been… I mean… its still me… my room… recycling… creating things, getting appreciation from my family… I even got to watch Supernatural a couple of times with bhai… got to talk to my Janu mami… My lovely khalla… my cool mamoo… my sweet cousin… and hung out with friends… STILL… there is something terribly missing … and I just can’t figure it out… and I hate this feeling… of not being able to know what’s wrong…what went wrong… how to fix it?  And this is the point that is hardest… this is the point I fear most… because this is the point where it is hard to control when your heart and your mind wants peace and refreshment and “happiness” and sometimes satan tricks you and makes you fall for ways to find happiness which are not right… which are wrong… So where do I go from here?  where do I find it?  Nop… I don’t intend to be like Elizebeth Gilbert, though I am reading her book but my situation is different and completely opposite…

Somehow I know where my happiness lies… yet it is not for me to have it unless it is given to me by someone else… Though I am doing all the things I love… but for every reason, it feels I am doing it to cover the pain that I actually am getting… But still… what I need most at the moment is perhaps not happiness, but the spirituality, that strength to stick and wait because happiness will come … I know it… I believe in it… and inshA’llah it will…

Yes, I know I got carried away in my thoughts… but that’s what this post is, just a flow of thoughts… which keep jumping from here and there… so here I am again…. if you still are reading it, hats off to you… As for me… I think I’ll step out try and search my happiness, my contentment that seems to be lost or weakened by the enormous load of pain caused by someone else… and unfortunately I can’t tell them or complain, because that’s who I am… a coward in a way… somehow, I find it easy to be hurt than to hurt someone, even though I’m just telling them they hurt me… Whether it is called weakness or strength.. I don’t care… I just know that this is me… and I still have me to take care of my broken heart… why do people hurt?  I don’t know… Sometimes intentionally, sometimes unintentionally… Allah knows better… but most of the times… they do it by simple act… the act is… when they expect you to understand, you to treat them as priority… and yet they don’t’ understand you and not even keep you in the option list… I guess world would be much more happier place when everyone treated each other the same way they wanted to be treated…

So with all this crap… just a little advise… If you want to feel special by someone, treat them special…. and if you treat them as option/bad… then allow them to treat you that way too…



Three people were laying bricks. A passerby asked them what they were doing.

The first one replied, “Don’t you see I am making a living?”

The second one said, “Don’t you see I am lying bricks?”

The third one said, “I am building a beautiful monument.”

Here were three people doing the same thing who had totally different perspective on what they were doing.

They had three very different attitudes about their work. And would their attitude affect their performance? The answer is clearly yes.


Excellence comes when the performer takes pride in doing his best. Every job is a self-portrait of the person who does it, regardless of what the job is, whether washing cars, sweeping the floor or painting a house.

Michelangelo had been working on a statue for many days. He was taking a long time to retouch every small detail. A bystander thought these improvements were insignificant and asked Michelangelo why he bothered with them. Michelangelo replied, “Trifles make perfection and perfection is no trifle.”

Most people forget how fast you did a job, but they remember how well it was done. Pride of performance does not represent ego. It represents pleasure with humility.

“The quality of the work and the quality of the worker are inseparable.”

Half-hearted effort does not produce half results; it produces no results!

Masters of IR & Jack of Everything Else

Alhumdulillah … Finally done with my Masters in International Relations 🙂 on the funniest date: 13-2-13 😛 …

Found out last night… when my cousin told me the result’s online and well completely nervous I checked mine… initially planned on checking in morning but then, curious creature that I am… checked it in night… once, twice, thrice… I CLEARED! OMG… That was something… and now told my parents in the morning and well the smile… the shine… I feel blessed… to be reason for their happiness… of course Allah has all the credit for it, for HE helped me clear my exams but still… It did feel good… And then I realize… it is that smile, that shine, that feeling I get when I see them happy that I realize why I willingly take certain decisions… decisions that I probably won’t prefer taking but yet I do… because it’s all worth it… Making my parents proud… I hope one day I can make Allah proud of me too… succeed in winning from my nafs and defeating it completely … InshA’llah… And while the fight with nafs continue, I guess I’ll meanwhile try to keep my parents happy 🙂 ….

And hence for now, I’m Masters of IR & Jack of Everything Else … I mean considering I did matric in Biology, inter in Computer science, graduation in Biology which ought to be Jacks… while now I did my MA in International relations so I guess it’s worth the saying… considering sometime ago it was “Jack of All & Masters of None” … 😀 …

Now lets see what life has in it for me… Yes, I know, I’ll be the one who would be choosing it but then it’s all written already so perhaps it’ll come as a surprise just not completely 😉

Oh well …

Until then … Let’s just stick with life, keep it slow and steady and in the meantime think about doing masters or PhD 😛 (wow did that just rhyme? – Steady & PhD … LOL) That ought to be 10th rhyme this month… I wonder if it’s my rhyming time of the year (considering I hadn’t rhymed in a long time)

Anyhoo Adios Amigo!

Little Things?

Little drops of water,
Little drains of sand,
Make the mighty ocean
And the beauteous land.

And the little moments,
Humble though they be,
Make the mighty ages
Of eternity.

So our little errors
Lead the soul away,
From the paths of virtue
Into sin to stray.

Little deeds of kindness,
Little words of love,
Make our earth an Eden,
Like the heaven above.

~Julia A. Carney


And yet, it’s the little things that have been replaced by big things …and in the end, it’s nothing that is done because little things are considered too stupid and immature and big things are not easy to do …

Looking at the same situation in an anticlock style :)

Assalam-0-alaikum waRehmatullahe waBarakatahu

I hope you all are doing good and taking full advantage of this blessed month, Ramadan Kareem, by doing as many good deeds as you can…  No specific reason have I today to write this blog post except for maybe sharing a view that just clicked to me a while ago, not to let the thought slip away, so here I am… blogging….

until about few minutes back, I was an optimist person but even then I feel I had a wrong outlook in a certain away… I mean I do believe that this life is balanced, sorrows & happiness, success & failure, night & day, in every way… be it the starting of the Islamic Calendar & its end or be it life & death … I always thought that sometimes some people face their share of happiness & sadness in a very short & limited time like you are happy a day and soon after you’ll be sad or hurt & then life will make you happy again and it’s a loop thing … so mostly in all that I always kept happiness followed by sadness but while reading a post on FB, I came across the following words that changed my outlook completely…

★ We Ask: “Till when should i be in this languish state?
Allâh answers: ••► “Verily, along with every hardship is relief, Verily, along with hardship is relief (i.e. there is one hardship with two reliefs, so one hardship cannot overcome two reliefs)” [Surah Ash-Sharh (94): 5-6]

I mean, why do we never think that the sadness is followed by happiness rather than thinking that happiness is followed by sadness?  Y’know?  Like… why is it that most of the times when someone observes their life, he begins to feel whenever he’s happy that sadness is right around the corner… well okay maybe it is because its kind of loop thing for your part but how about spending that duration of happiness thinking of how you lived through darkness & now Allah has rewarded you for being patient?  and then.. when sadness strikes again, be positive once again and look forward for the relief that is waiting right around the corner????  That way you’ll be taking Sadness as a knock of happiness before it comes instead of taking happiness as a sign of something bad that is to happen… Honestly it’ll change you whole way of being happy & content… After all except for Allah there is no-one who is 100% true to their word… and if Allah has said that every hardship has a relief, well then cheer up amigo Smile  ….

So I guess that’s it, from now on… my happiness will be enjoyed as a reward instead of a fear of the upcoming darkness… I guess in this new light I shall now consider that Every Islamic date starts with the setting of the sun & then comes the day… So ya Smile!!

Allah Hafiz

thank u for taking time to read… !!