From auto to manual…


And then there are times when you start to breathe again, live again and then a certain thing can make you suffocate all of a sudden… and even though there is light at the end of the tunnel, you may again feel like you are surrounded by darkness… And it can be real OR an illusion created by your fears… But the truth is that you have survived the darkness before and you can do it now too… and you will… and perhaps this darkness is what you need to fuel your inner spark instead of waiting for the sun to shine…

Like a camera… you have to stop depending on auto, and switch to manual, change all the settings and take a brighter picture even when the sun is setting!!

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Finding that center of gravity


Humans, at the same time, play multiple characters at once. They hold multiple positions at the same time… You can be oppressed & yet be the oppressor at once. And for that reason, I have learned that perhaps life is all about finding that balance, that center of gravity within yourself so that all your roles, duties are balanced, and none is suffering because of the other… Yet, we get so carried away, or perhaps at times, intimidated by a certain character of ourselves that we don’t realize how much others are suffering, and sometimes the ones suffering were in fact the ones that needed to be treasured more…

Congratulations, you are born, with a wail of cry you enter the world, you haven’t even opened your eyes yet and still you are entitled of so many positions in life, so many relations awaited for you to own them.  You are born, and you are a son/daughter, a sister/brother, a believer/nonbeliever, a niece/nephew, a grandson/granddaughter, and so on.  You haven’t learn to say a word, and perhaps you are even entitled as an uncle/aunt or perhaps granduncle/grandaunt.  Then as you grow, you keep adding to your titles, you keep adding your social circle, and your responsibilities.  It never stops, and continues until you die.

Today, I finally felt motivated to write about it while talking to a dear one.  I loved the gesture they did; they acted and took care of the responsibilities that one of their titles brought along them, and yet, one of their other relation suffered and they seemed completely oblivious to it.  It made me respect and yet disrespect them, both at once and I realized that is the case with all of us.  It includes me, you, them…  everyone!

You are either a believer or you are not, and this means that you either have an additional responsibility or not.  If you are a believer, then along with the worldly relations, you have to satisfy your Creator too and if you are not, then perhaps just focus on worldly relations.

Being a Muslim, at least for me, it all revolves around my religion, each of them holds their significance and makes me fulfill my certain duties towards them.  And yet, at times it is not easy.  In order to satisfy one relation, I end up being unjust to the other.  But what I have learned is that Islam makes it easy to balance them by telling us the priorities, and once we start balancing according to that list, it becomes comparatively easier to balance them, if not 100%.

However, if you are not a believer, then perhaps you can be unjust to either while being perfect for one of them.  But then, I have realized that eventually it makes you suffer more than the relation or the person on the other hand.  Because try as we might, we can never live with just one relation in world.  Even being an introvert makes you crave for relations, perhaps limited ones.

I don’t have any solution, but I do know that in order to have harmony in life, one does need to learn to balance relations.  Just because you got married, doesn’t mean your spouse is the only one who deserves your 100% dedication, and while it does to an extent, still it shouldn’t be on the expense of your duties towards your parents.  Or just because you are now blessed with a child, doesn’t mean you overlook your duties to your spouse.  And while you are balancing them all, doesn’t mean you completely ignore the friend who helped you through the ups and downs of life.  And while you are balancing them, don’t at all forget yourself, and your Creator (if you are a believer).

In the end, best of luck finding that balance, that harmony!  Because I still am trying to balance it all.

Peace!

Deciding the already decided


Some decisions are hard to make… Not because they are hard, but simply because of the society we live in… The people we are meant to live with… They make it harder because of two reasons (I suppose)…. 1) because they aren’t strong enough to stand against the society or 2) because they too are like them (the society) …

So what should one do?  Listen to people or listen to the Creator? … Of course, listen to the Creator, end of discussion… I wish it was… Instead… It is the very reason to make it harder… Because unfortunately the society we live in….or at least one I live in and come across to… It only makes it harder… The moment you step up to do something for HIS sake, something that isn’t exactly in favour or pleasing to society, they start pointing you out your dozen other wrong deeds… They don’t encourage you to take this right step and keep taking more, INSTEAD, they pull you down… Remind you of all wrong steps you took etc…

Yes, I live in this Non-Islamic “Muslim” society…. Unfortunately… Or maybe fortunately, Allah knows better…  But here’s a request, if you truly fear Allah, your Creator… Then please don’t pull down someone who is trying to take a right step, just because you walk on the wrong path… Be true Muslim… Say MashA’llah and pray to Allah that HE helps him/her, and you, and this society in walking on the right path too…

As for me… Though for now I’m one against more like 99% of all females I know… Still, I intend to keep my decision… No shaping of eyebrows… Alhumdulillah mine don’t need… And yet people tell me that I should, esp when it will be the time of my marriage… And I don’t understand why? … Just because the media and makeup artists say it is important?? How???
Ok, I will if they promise to take responsibility and agree to be punished in hell because of it!!! Will they?? Nop… So why should I care??

& as I always have believed in Allah helping me through… Likewise it happened now… Almost at edge of changing my decision, unwillingly… I opened Twitter, though I hadn’t opened it in longest time… And there on my TL was this quote:

Never change who you are just because you’re afraid of losing them. If they really love you, your imperfections won’t matter.

Shukar Alhumdulillah… Yes, I’m a sinner not a saint… but I have no intention of increasing the load of my sins just because “some” people are influenced by “media” and their “definition of beauty”….
And the fact that I ended up seeing that quote is a proof that HE is happy with my decision too & wants me to stick to it InshA’llah 🙂

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Taking leap of faith…


Ever had that moment before which, everything kept going perfect and then all of a sudden someone says something and you start feeling weird… Like something is not right… And something is different… No matter how much you try to tell ur heart not to panic, it still does… And what next?  Even things seem to be a little different.. weird different… And u tell urself that maybe its just u… U hope that its just u… And when ur sixth sense says orherwise, u take deep breath and just have faith… Take a long gulp of water, close ur eyes, deep breath, and trust Allah… Prepare urself to take the jump… Knowing, reminding urself… That Allah will either catch u, teach u to fly, or simply create a path for u to walk on…  HE wont let u fall, inshAllah…
Thats it, take the step and wait for HIM to do HiS magic…

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Allah – mankind – me


When Allah loves someone, He sets him free letting it come to Him when he pleases, letting him love Him back when he wills … Yet, when mankind loves someone, he’s looking on ways to bind him to himself, someway that it won’t go away even if it hurts him, he doesn’t care because he just wants to keep what he loves, with him …

We talk so much about love yet we know so little about it …

Sometimes its hard to say what’s happening is for good or bad, happiness or pain … Whether Allah is testing you, punishing you or simply blessing you but bringing a hardship in front of you …

I don’t know whether the heart turns numb from going through so many obstacles or simply faith becomes so firm that it brings patience to your heart? Faith, belief, hope … There is always a brand new day, a brand new start … Every moment that ends is a moment bringing you closer to Him …

I’m naïve, non-intellect & perhaps wrong too … But I still believe I’m Alhumdulillah blessed with great gifts …the gift of doing sabr…the gift of having faith even in toughest situations… The gift of not giving up… And the gift of knowing that everything, everyone will only accompany me till death at most, after that its just me & Him … Sometimes I let myself be carried away by duniya, but I guess as far as I have a reminder in my heart, I’m among the blessed ones who haven’t become deaf, dumb, or blind …

Why let tears fall for people when they don’t care? … There’s a limit to everything, even life … So if life is to end today, why not spend it bringing smiles to those who care?

O my heart, fear not thee
For love is more than what eyes can see
Be faithful, steady, & str0ng
InshAllah, n0thing will g0 wr0ng 🙂
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